Attachment

Within the past few days, I have found myself reiterating the same thing to various different people, in regards to attachment.The wrong kind of attachment can be detrimental to one’s state of mind and can even go as far as ruining your life.I learnt about this through my own pain, some would call it ‘learning the hard way.’ The most frightening aspect was that I did not realise the enduring effects that this attachment would have. This is something that many people struggle with and it can be applied to any sort of attachment, to a best friend, relatives, husband,spouse... there are no restrictions.

As humans we yearn to be appreciated and loved. We love others in hope of receiving that love, we so often find ourselves heartbroken when this love is not reciprocated. Sometimes we become so attached to people that we allow them to fully occupy our hearts.We give them our utmost attention, our energy; we commit ourselves to them wholeheartedly. However when this person leaves,we are left with a void in our hearts. We are left to be empty; we drown in the darkness that we have created for ourselves. A pit of misery streams through us, the aching takes over and it appears as if we will never be happy again.

The problem here is that we have allowed this person to occupy our hearts to the extent that this person becomes our source of happiness.We have become reliant on this being. Therefore if this person is no longer around or is not making us happy, we drown in our own hollow of barrenness. The only hope we have is to turn to Allah(Almightyt) and allow Him to inhabit our heart. He is the only One that may heal us of our suffering.

Slowly we begin to realise that when we are attached sole to Allah, everything begins to hurt less. Sorrows do not wound us as deep;happiness is sweeter, all because we know deep down that everything is decreed by Him. We accept everything that comes our way with appreciation and we begin to direct our energy on focusing on the blessings in life, rather than the things that we do not have.We come to the realisation that the reason for Allah taking away this person was to demonstrate to us that nothing lasts forever, it was to in fact direct us closer to Him. We often perceive everything clearly when in a state of melancholy. We must believe in our heart and soul that Allah is our only hope.

Really ,solely Allah to make you happy, know that only He can truly bring contentment and that love should be sought from the Creator rather than the Creation. As soon as you start to adhere to this, stillness will soar through your being and you will feel that a substantial weight has been lifted.